Startg of the beautiful journey.. My Marriage

Always wanna capture these beautiful journey of ours, now that i have created a blog for myself .. Finally came the CHANCE!

First of all to begin, the journey of our courtship. Hope to keep this little diary of mine and perhaps letting little Rayden & his future siblings to read on latter... hee..
Story of Daddy Chris & Mummy Shannen...

Long long ago.. hee

Somewhere around mid of 2000~~
I was then with my first boyfriend who's in the navy, feeling bored one day I went on IRC, this is only my first few times on IRC. IRC & ICQ were "hot" during that time, so feeling bored, went online to chat.
Well, as expected those chatting online usually are those up to "no good", it's obvious when they started to ask u out in the middle of nite... of coz i don entertain those. then somehow chatted with this guy who called himself as "shadow" (i think), my nick was "dreamz" (if i din rembr wrongly). After some chattg, found that he's quite a decent guy, who's coming out from NS soon. Think we went on to chat for quite long, before we are confident with one another enough to exchange our contact #...so the nites ended, if i'm not wrong, we still do chatted for a couples of times before we start exchange sms but never did call one another yet.
Well, of coz, I did not tell my then bf abt it, I think he gg to get really mad if i tell him.. ok, i was a little bad..

Somewhere around end 2000~~
we continued to exchange sms and then chatted on phones. Topics involved were harmless, talking abt work, army lives etc, told him tat I hv a long-time bf, abt my new movement in job....etc etc, we usually chatted for hours, can tell that he's a sincere & nice chap.
After several conservations, we are considered as quite good frens, we decided to meet up. For me, of coz, this is my first time mtg up IRC fren, of coz I'm scared, wat if he's a baddie, so taking the opportunities that my colleagues are planning to go on Music Underground one of the friday nites aft work, so i proposed to meet him there, at least safe for myself, crowded with people and frens are around me.
So we meet up. Okay as expected, decent looking, skinny chap.. not very handsome though..haa but cute...typical sgp young guy lo.. he came latter than i do, he rushed from his new workplace in Sims ave..then dinner then to meet me, tat's his first job aft NS. So while he's queuing to get in,i went out to find him..oh ya, but he was smoking when i see him, Ah beng i tot.. hee... nevertheless abt the smoke, he still a nice decent chap. I think he came in eventually but upon seeing me with my gfs, he kinda paiseh and went off soon aft a drink. So tat nite, we din really talked but only the first face-to-face meet. So the nite end there..

Subsequently, we continue to chat on phone n exchange smses. We then met up once, in China Sq or Far East Sq, went to a vegetarian resturant called Lao Di Fang. Had our dinner there..the food is ok but pricey.. hee...i still rembr we both used Nokia 8210 model tat time, and we were comparing the casing colour etc..some common topics.. we felt awkward initially but "warmed up" soon after...yup, we went on dutch for the dinner.... Aft dinner, he offered to ride me to nearby MRT but i refused. Coz he was riding a motorbike, n i don think it's nice to hv bodily contact.. hee..then he offered to walk me to MRT.. So the nite end there....departing....

During our conversations, did talked abt our personal life, for me, i told him, with my then bf for quite some times (~3 yrs plus), so i commented, i was those kind of "little woman" i wont leave my bf unless he suggested breakup w me. Maybe then i was tryg to signal him tat my intention of makg new frens and not to find new bfs or etc.... oh, he was then single, had 1 puppy love during his poly/sec days... Oh ya, i rembr, during our first dinner at Lao Di Fang, he did asked me, is it common for me to have one-one dinner with guy despite i got a bf. I was kinda of taken back then..coz my impression was, was he thinking i'm a loose gal who often do this kind of thing..haa i think he was juz very bad at words.. but that statment drew my defend line, i told him no, tat was the first time n only dinner, i considered tat as healthy as long as none of my guy fren nor myself harbour any weird ideas....

so things goes on...... chattgs etc...

then came one interesting day... we were on phone, it was a sunday, then he told me, his mum is cookg ching teng, out of playfulness i told him i wan oso leh..then he say ok lo, bring to me..then i naughtily agreed.. haa.. i think i did somehow did it on purpose. Then we put down the phone, for a while, i felt weird so i called him, no answer, sms no reply... but i told him where i stayed before we dropped the line. So i guessed he's really on his way... then i was feelg mixed..wat the heck am i tryg to do..sigh..... then he came...with ching teng in his "box" on his bike. So did spilled out during the ride..haa..he's so cute... i coyly accepted of coz n told him i was only joking, nver knew tat he'll come.. hee...then he passed to me, both paiseh oso, then we went home separately then.. but wat a interestg guy..
...but then somehow i got the hints that he might be interested in me but of coz to play safe i ignored those signs..haa...

somewhere in 2001 n so on ~~
somehow both gotten to be busy at work, contacts were lesser....and i beginning to undertake my part time degree course in feb 2002, time for me will be even more precious.... we still occassionaly exchanged emails rather than phones now... he was then gg to take his parttime deg too.. was gettg bz... then came one email from him one day...
in the email, he wrote, asking me for advice. He said there is a gal who he just knew in pub, was interested in him and everyone say she looked like Zhang ZiYi (so must be a pretty gal i tot, though i never like that actress). But deep inside him, he hv a gal in mind but he dunno how she felt, he dared not to express himself, afraidg if she rejected him, they cant even be friends. So asked me wat shd he do.. Haa...... not to invite further implications, furthermore i still w my bf, and gg for part time study soon.. so i juz tot of it as some other gal he had in mind, since he didnt explicitly tell me it was me (i'm not sure either until aft we got together n asked him..Hee).. so don wish to waste his time, i told him, if he do kinda like the new gal, he could hv gv it a try who knows.. somehow i was encouraging him... so he get on w the new gal eventually... i din not know i broke his heart.haa

so then no more contacts between both of us....for quite sometimes...


somewhere in mid 2002 n so on~~
After so guess all were busy, we no longer contacts.... then in yr end 2002, i broke up with my bf of 6yrs plus. People changed i guess..I was no longer that naive but i think guy matured slower, he still abit, end up we couldnt communicate well and couldnt understand one another... different opinions, then i was bz with my studies.. actually he did not approved my parttime deg, saying waste of time etc.. Somehow he was feelg alittle inferior i guess, lower education compared to me, when i asked him to upgrade he said he's bz with work (sign-on with navy), but i tot these things could be done if he able to manage his time well..i tot it juz excuses when he do not wish so. Anyway each of his owns, i don force him of coz...so we did break up...
then in that short time frame, perhaps partly becoz of workload (i mean part time studies) n the time spent, me and another classmate got together... he was years older than me, more matured..maybe tat's why i was attracted to him..haa... but he was possesive... i remebr when i together with him, i did exchanged a few sms with Chris sometimes, but he was very unhappy w me. Of coz, i told him everything, rite from my ex-bf to Chris etc etc... So when i changed my HP# in early 2003, i informed all my frens but not Chris, coz my 2nd bf mind so much. I was stupid then i listened to him, so i din informed Chris.... then coincidentally, he changed his HP# as well ..around that same time frame as i did, he told me he did informed me, but i think he sms to myold #, hence i do not know... so we lost our contacts... then times passes... haa..wat a long story..

then somewhere in mid 2004, i finally graduated......shortly aft graduation, me and my 2nd bf drifted apart.... break up eventually... then came one fine day, my sec school fren told me she's interested in taking up course, the school were the same as Chris hv taken, so i sms him, no reply (i tot attitude, so dao, he changed his # n i did not realised), so i emailed him to ask him...days after, finally he replied.. haa.. i "suaned" him, got gf liao forgotten abt old fren, no replies at all.. then we realised we both changed our HP# without the other party knowing.. Lucky he still checked his emails..haa.. this is how we got back in touch... I'm so glad..hee
we exchanged HP# and informations as well.. then we realised we were both unattached then.. hee....so many years passed...haa...

somewhere in year end 2004~~
we start gg out more often, meeting up for dinners, movies and catch "mama mia"...good show! Soon after, along these periods, i start going out w him and joined his frens as well on some occassions. But everytime i appeared w his frens, his frens would gv me those "weird" kinds of look... Then i realised, along these years, he hv been tellg his closer frens tat he took a fancy on me but never hv the courage to ask me, coz i was attached then, he juz waited silently...So i was like the "well-known" gal amongst his frens...hee...so paiseh.......haa.. Then early dec, while me joined his colleagues at New Asia Bar during one clubbing fri nite... I was staring out at the view (was on 71th level)..being boh liao...i was paiseh coz consider first time gg clubbg w him n w his colleagues, i dare not dance, but sit around only (of coz he accompanyed me thru'out), then i say tat side is North..where i stayed... then East.. etc..trying to differentiate the zones... then he told me.. ..ya tat's east where he stayed... n said "That's where i stayed, not sure when can i take u home n tell my mum that u r my gf?" .....*heehee*..i heard him, but i was so paiseh, i do not know how to react.. so i again pretend not to understand him nor hear him clear... then he paiseh, he let it go..saying nevermind... after new asia bar, he drove me home (oh, he's driving liao nt on bike).....then we proceed to a Yishun dam to chat a while... (not deserted place, there's quite a lot of people there k).. then he readily asked me the question again..haaa... i finally braced up my courage oso... but i din not gv him a very firm answer though... Then he sent me home, after tat we exchanged sms..He was much "bolder" in sms, i mean at least, he dared to speak his mind...Hee..His sms were so sweet...saying he wont force me if i still feel it's not a ripe time...and told me he v bad at words, and dunno how to express himself, but he knew he will regret it for life if he never ask (for a relationship)..i was blushly and felt so happy when i saw these smses, i still keep them in my old HP.. hee..so memorable, i nver wanna delete them away, but too bad, i unable to transfer them to my current samsung phone ..so sad...
Even though we are all in mid 20s, but feel like we are like 2 young kids..so shy..hahaaa...funny!.... SO we finally go on date... hee... on the 12 DECEMBER 2004... heee

WE ARE FINALLY TOGETHER AFTER SO LONG (~5Years LOST & FOUND)